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5 Things Girls in Relationships Need to STOP Doing

18 Jan
Ever wondered what things make for a bad relationship?

I’ve been married for a grand total of almost-6 months today, which means I’m obviously a relationship expert and have all of the answers when it comes to dating and marriage (in case you didn’t get it: that was sarcasm). However, even though I don’t have all the answers—and even though this may sound a bit creepy—I have always been an avid people-observer. I’m in psychology, I can’t help it. I watch people’s behaviours, try to understand their personality, and often catch myself thinking about how their background or past experiences may be influencing what they’re doing now. It’s fascinating, really. People aren’t nearly as creative and unique as we’d all like to expect—we’re actually pretty predictable.

Unfortunately, what we’re not good at predicting is how our actions affect other people, especially those people that we’re in love with. Through my extreme interest in human behaviour, I’ve seen the same things happen again and again that pretty much always lead to an unstable or unhealthy relationship, and unfortunately I see it a lot among girls here at college. [Read more…]

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13 Long Distance Relationship Tips

11 Sep

I’ve gotten quite a few e-mails asking me to write a post on long distance relationship tips.

But I’ve never actually been in a long-distance relationship, so I don’t think that I’m the girl for the job! That being said, I know that it’s a very important topic to a lot of you, and that many of you are living in long-distance situations right now. So, I decided to reach out to some of my blogging friends and ask them to help me out!

I was amazed by how many amazing tips I got from these girls! I highly recommend every single one of their blogs, so I hope you take the time to visit their site after you read this post!

So, without further ado, here are 13 of the best long-distance relationship tips for college students!

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6 Reasons Starting College Single is Great

7 Sep
Even though I wasn’t all that thrilled at the time, I am so happy now that I started college single.

My first two weeks of college were spent crying to my best friend about a boy. I had hoped that he and I would be able to make things work out, and that we would be dating by the time I got to school.

Obviously, my plans fell through. So I started college single, as I had been for the past 18 years, and very unimpressed.

Looking back now, though, only two years later, I am so incredibly grateful that I wasn’t in a relationship when I started school! There were so many opportunities and areas for self-discovery that I would have missed if I had been dating someone at that time.

Now, this post isn’t hating on high school sweethearts at all. I think those love stories are adorable and should be celebrated! Finding love when you’re young is such a blessing. That being said, this post is written with the assumption that if I had been dating in my first year, I would not have been one of those lucky 5% or so of high school couples who stayed together. I’m assuming we would have broken up, but I would have spent the first 6 to 10 months of my college life in a relationship that was going nowhere.

I also know that a lot of freshmen right now are going through breakups with high school boyfriends, or are more like me and feel intimidated entering a world of college kids when they’ve never been in a “real” relationship before. And this post is for them.

So here are the 9 reasons I’m happy I started college off as a single girl!  [Read more…]

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7 Signs You Should Break Up

28 Aug
It can be hard to figure out when to leave a relationship, especially since it can be so easy to tell ourselves that it’s just not the right time, or that we should give him another chance.

Although I’m all for second chances, I do think that relationships need to be handled with a special degree of care. From my own personal experience as well as talking many of my friends through their relationship difficulties over the years, I have come to the conclusion that if you’re sure you’re in a bad relationship, you owe it to both yourself and the guy involved to end it sooner rather than later.

Now that school is starting again I’ve gotten quite a few e-mails from you trying to figure out if it’s worth the long-distance relationship to keep seeing their high school boyfriends. It can be so hard to decide whether or not a relationship is good, and whether it’ll stand the test of time.
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7 Weird Things to Look for in a Guy

17 Aug

Have you ever had a hard time figuring out if that guy you saw staring at you from the other side of the room would make good boyfriend material or not?

After writing The Freshman’s Guide to College, I just really don’t want to write about college for a little bit. So this week we’re talking relationships and summer, then I’ll be back with college tips next week!

As I write this I’m visiting my in-laws in Kamloops, BC, and tomorrow is Connor and my one-month anniversary! It doesn’t seem like it’s been a month yet, to be honest, since we’ve been so busy ever since we got married!

Now, I’ve already shared with you all that Connor and I didn’t have a typical relationship by a lot of Christian’s standards, and I loved hearing all of your stories about how yours weren’t so typical, either! But it got me wondering:

If so many of us have “non-typical” relationships that are successful, but we all know quite a few “typical” relationships that are unsuccessful, why don’t we try to figure out what those “non-typical” relationships have in common and look for those, too, and not just the ordinary list of traits that make great Christian boyfriend material?  [Read more…]

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First harvest from the garden!! My bok choy is doi First harvest from the garden!! My bok choy is doing amazing!
We are all sick but having a toddler means we stil We are all sick but having a toddler means we still went for a walk 😅
Mommy and Vivian tummy time! 🥰 Mommy and Vivian tummy time! 🥰
I love babies. And I love my daughter. And I love I love babies. And I love my daughter. And I love that she’s perhaps got the worst baby-patterned baldness that I’ve ever seen 🤣
I love this little one. No asterisk. No caveat. I I love this little one. No asterisk. No caveat. I just love him. 

God uses parental imagery for Himself all the time when he talks about his love for us. 

So why do we feel the need to add asterisks to Gods love?

God loves you…. But you don’t deserve it. 
God loves you… but only because Jesus died for you.
God loves you… but you make him sad and angry.
God loves you… but, but, but. 

Yes, we get it. We are sinners. I’m not arguing against that. 

But can I ask you something? 

Why do you think Gods love needs a caveat? 

What are you afraid will happen if you simply accept his unconditional, all-encompassing love for you? 

What are you afraid will happen if you AREN’T a horrible worm God can’t stand to look at? 

What would happen if instead of being motivated by fear of Gods anger and disappointment we were spurred on to good deeds out of Gods magnificent joyful love for us? 

God loves you. No buts. 

———-
(Also shoutout to @pastor_rob_wiesner who was the first pastor I ever heard say in a sermon that God delights in us and just plain likes us without giving a caveat. It made such a profound impact on me and opened my eyes to how anxious of a faith I have had for so long.)
There’s a word for that… it starts with “p”… 😳 #deconstruction #everymansbattle #exvangelical
THIS is what I spend most of my time doing. Clea THIS is what I spend most of my time doing. 

Cleaning my kitchen. 
Breastfeeding my daughter.
Reading to my son.
Folding laundry.
Taking care of my home. 

There are some big-name authors who talk about me as if I’m some big evil mastermind, like there’s some huge conspiracy against them, like they’re somehow the victims when they’re the ones who are propped up by the largest organizations in Evangelicalism today. The ones who have made their living off the backs of women who have been bruised and beaten by their false teachings. 

I hate to break it to them, but it’s not true—I’m not anyone special. I’m just a mom who wants better for her kids. 

I’m just a mom who refuses to allow her son to grow up in a church who sees him as a lustful animal who needs women to keep him honest. 

I’m just a mom who refuses to subject her daughter to soul-destroying teachings that her body is a problem, and her role is to be second to a man. 

I’m just a mom who sees the poison you are pouring into her children’s milk, and is finally standing up. 

I think they have to see us as some big mastermind threat. Like some huge, powerful enemy. 

Because the alternative is way scarier. 

The alternative is that we are just normal women. And we aren’t taking your crap anymore.
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