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5 Ways to End a Friendship Without Making Matters Worse

Wondering how to end a friendship? You’re not alone.

We’re all about thriving in life here on Life as a Dare, and that includes in our friendships. But not all friendships are thriving. Sometimes, though, even when we know a friendship is bad for us, it’s really hard to let a friendship fade.

But I think it’s very important to be able to let go. Here’s the thing: we’re living in a very connected age. Everyone’s on multiple social media sites, we’ve all got cell phones with us 24/7, and it’s just a cultural norm to be keeping tabs on what everyone we’ve ever met is up to these days. There’s no escaping people anymore!

When our parents were kids, if you moved to a different city for college, you just kind of accepted that your friendship was going to fade. All you had to keep in touch was phone calls with obscene long-distance charges and snail mail. Which wasn’t even called snail mail back then–it was just mail.

But now, there’s no natural end point for any relationship. You’ve always got facebook, skype, or texting to keep in touch. So where we used to be able to just naturally accept when a friendship was coming to a close, now there’s pressure to put a lot of time and energy into keeping up with people that was never there before.

There are a lot of really good reasons to let a friendship end. I actually did a video on it this week, where I talked about when you should end a friendship: [Read more…]

3 Things People do Wrong in Relationships Before they Start–A Rant

 For some reason, I always find myself being asked for advice on how to get a date. Probably because I’m a psychology student, I’m analytical (hello being an ENTJ female), and I got married pretty young.

I love helping my friends out, but I find that they tell me the same problems again and again. And I think that part of the problem is that no one actually knows how to date. Which is a problem, because relationships are a huge part of our lives. For many of us, marriage is one of the most important things we’d like to do with our lives. So it really affects me when I see people who so desperately want to find love going about it in the wrong ways.

So, from my vast experience dealing with other people’s relationship problems as well as my own dating experience, I though I’d give you the 3 things we do wrong in relationships that make them way more complicated than they need to be, and how to fix it! Enjoy. (And just remember, I say all this in love and from experience.)

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Becoming YOU Week 3: Relationships

I feel like how to have healthy relationships is the number one problem that we face today.

I’m not just talking about dating, either–I’m talking about how we, as people, relate to other people on a day to day basis. We have our nose in our phones, our lives are about “#squadgoals” and “#relationshipgoals”, and just meeting people that aren’t creeps can seem really really hard, if I’m honest.

One of the biggest conundrums that the millennial generation is dealing with is that we have all this contact with hundreds of people we may or may not have even met on a daily basis, but very few meaningful connections. We’re some of the most isolated individuals even though we have countless conversations on a daily basis. 

Your twenties are years that set the stage for the rest of your life. I don’t mean to say that to scare anyone–it’s just reality. During your twenties is most likely when you’ll meet whoever you end up marrying, it’s when you have your first real career, it’s when you solidify your identity in many areas. And who your friends are really impacts who you become in these years.  [Read more…]

9 Tips for Staying Safe While Dating

Safe dating can seem a lot harder in our culture of meeting people in coffee shops and on dating apps and websites. 

Although it’s definitely easiest to date people who you’ve known for a while, sometimes you meet people in the strangest places and really hit it off. Grocery store, coffee shop, you name it! But when you’re going on dates with people you’ve only just met, safety can be even more of a concern than with people you’ve known for a while.

Something I’m really passionate about is helping girls make wise choices, even if they aren’t as fun or easy as what everyone else is doing! So today I’m talking safe dating, and here are 9 of my best tips to stay safe on your dates! [Read more…]

The Most Attractive Quality Anyone Can Have

I’m 21, and most people around me are either in a relationship or looking for a relationship, and in talking to people and thinking myself I’ve noticed some patterns. One of those patterns is what the most attractive quality in a person is.

I was never any good at the dating game. I got married to the first guy I dated, so I really don’t have much experience. Nonetheless, I have had a lot of experience with people, and with lots of people who are dating, have liked people, and who are married. And you know what? There really is a common thread of what girls and guys both find attractive. And that’s what we’re talking about today, because it’s something we don’t talk about enough. [Read more…]

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