As I’m sure all of you know, on July 18th I went from being Rebecca Gregoire to Rebecca Lindenbach. It was the most amazing day of my life, even though wedding planning was less than fun for me. I am so in love with my husband, and the day was everything I could have possibly dreamed of.
There were so many things that went perfectly at my wedding. I made the jewelry and they all looked amazing on the girls, I got to get so much precious time with Connor’s family, who all live in BC, which is a plane ride away for us, and my bridesmaids and I got to spend so much time just goofing off together.
However, the stuff that went well really isn’t all that interesting to hear about, and being a bride I was so worried that things would go wrong. And some of them did, and they make for great memories! Nothing too big, thankfully, but just to give you a bit of a laugh at my misfortune and to settle the nerves of any bride-to-be reading this, here are the 9 things that went perfectly wrong on my big day!
1. I forgot my garter at the house
This may not seem like a big deal, since I got it before I got to the reception hall, but if you think that you have never tried to get a teeny tiny little stretchy piece of lace onto your leg under 7 layers of tulle in an extremely small seat in a van with 4 other girls squished around you.
Pretty sure I flashed everyone in that car.
2. I lost the underwear I was going to wear
On the same topic, I had this super cute little blue pair of panties that I got at my bachelorette that had “The Mrs.” across the front that were going to be my something blue and I lost them the morning of! How do you lose a pair of underwear?! I found them the next day, of course, but I still can’t believe that I managed to lose them when I only had about 8 things in my entire wardrobe since I had already moved everything over to Connor’s place. (Really not sure if that was too much information of not.)
So I ended up wearing a pair of white granny panties that I had stashed in the back of a drawer and forgotten about and you know what? No one knew. (Until now, of course).
3. One of my bridesmaids dropped her kleenex during the ceremony
It was adorable and I loved it. She managed to tuck it under her shoe, but it was too funny since all of us were joking before the ceremony that she would be crying the whole time and then she lost her kleenex only 5 minutes in. My sister ended up subtly passing hers down the line until it got to her.
4. Connor and I didn’t get to exchange letters the night before like we planned
My love language is words of affirmation, and I knew that I was going to be really stressed the day before the wedding, so I told Connor that we should exchange letters at the rehearsal and read them before we went to bed that night.
Yeah no. I completely forgot about it, even though I was so excited! I ended up writing mine while Katie was putting my hair in rollers and had her run it to him 10 minutes before the ceremony! Courtney, Connor’s sister, brought me his the morning of while we were getting ready, and I read mine just minutes before putting my dress on.
Even though I didn’t get to curl up in bed and read his letter before falling asleep for the last time as a single woman, the way it ended up happening was perfect. It was amazing sitting there, in his flannel shirt, with my hair all done and my makeup perfect, just drinking in the love letter that he had written me. It was the perfect thing before putting on that dress, and I loved it. Also, since he didn’t get his until right before the ceremony, he carried it around with him all day in his suit jacket, which I thought was so adorable and so sweet.
5. My ears got infected.
I got these amazing earrings that I just adore, but I don’t wear earrings all that much and they had pretty thick hooks, so after about an hour of having them in my ears were stinging.
The good news about this, though, is that by about 3 hours in I couldn’t even feel them any more, so I didn’t even notice the rest of the day! Of course, I have only been able to wear earrings again as of today, but still. I’m just happy that I couldn’t feel them while I was jumping around dancing. So the infection was good!
6. I got bugs in my dress.
You have no idea. I had 7 layers of tulle. We took pictures in a field. I kept on getting bugs stuck in multiple layers, and we frequently had to make “cricket stops.” Luckily I had a leopard gecko growing up, so I am totally fine with the little buggers, but I swear at one point I had 20 little flies in my dress. About halfway through we just gave up on getting bugs out if they were smaller than 2 inches long.
7. I got blisters the size of my big toe on each of my pinkies
I have pictures, but because I love you guys I’m not going to post them. Connor and I spent the first part of our honeymoon applying Polysporin and bandaids to my battered feet.
The good news is, though, that I didn’t wear my shoes before the big day, even though I was going to break them in the night before. If I had done that, though, I would have already had blisters the day of, so I’m happy that I only had blisters later in the day, not all day!
8. I didn’t get to eat any cake
The night of, Connor and I only got to eat the cake that we shoved in each others’ faces! We were so busy dancing and saying hello to people that we didn’t get to eat any of the amazing cakes that my friends Jesse and Samantha made until after the wedding. Luckily my parents grabbed samplings from multiple cheesecakes (yeah, we had a cheesecake bar) so we could taste them all after the honeymoon. And they were amazing.
9. I didn’t prepare a speech–and neither did Connor
I realized this at around 11:00 in the morning. So, in a panic, I called our best man, Sam, and asked “Does Connor have a speech prepared?” He told me to hold on, mumbled something to Connor, and then told me “Yep, he’s all good!” and I thought nothing of it. Connor had his down, so I figured I was covered!
After the ceremony, he admitted to me “Yeah.. I don’t have a speech for tonight. I just knew that it was the morning of, and what you needed to hear was that I definitely had it finished, so I told you what you needed to hear.”
It turns out he’s an amazing public speaker, since he gave a wonderful speech completely on the fly, so it didn’t even matter! He had the whole crowd laughing as he told the story of how we started dating, and the story about the speech, too. He’s constantly surprising me with new and wonderful things about him.
So there you have it. My perfect day definitely wasn’t perfect. No, there wasn’t anything catastrophic that happened, but those are some of the funny quirks of the day that I will always remember.
If you’re married, what were some of the things that went wrong for you?
To those who are getting married, don’t stress the little stuff. If something goes wrong, no one will know. Unless you’re like me and put it on the internet. Just have fun, enjoy the day, and laugh at the things that go wrong.
I loved my wedding. It was the best day of my life.
But let me tell you: married life is so much better than the fiancée life ;)
Photo credits go to Emma Sangalli Photography. If you’re in the Ottawa area and are looking for an event photographer or portrait photographer, I highly recommend her! Search for her on Facebook to see more of her work, including our engagement photos!